Have you ever wondered about the question 'What do women want?" The answer of course isn't a one-fits-all and has various elements. Do you agree that it is our duty to search for the answers into what our partners want in order to have a strong and successful relationship.
So, if you are reading this with the hope to get that magic answer, I am sorry to say this article is not the one. I am however going to give you a glimpse into what I have observed over the past 20 years of teaching mostly women to dance. I am going to focus on one specific topic that comes up time and time again...
."I wish my husband or boyfriend would dance with me".
We did a survey last year to find out why most men are so hesitant to start dancing. We received various different answers. Here are what the men had to say:
This is just a some of the feedback we received. After thinking about the answers, it made sense to me, and I can understand where they are coming from.
(For this article I am referring to social couple dance (Sokkie, Ballroom, Latin, Country couples, etc.) when mentioning dance...not Hip Hop or any other genre)
When I was a child, my parents went dancing almost every weekend, it was our lifestyle. I had a roll-up mattress and played under the tables while my parents danced. This was the norm till I was old enough to dance myself.
We do not have that anymore, so the "picture" of dance people see is mostly the one on TV with programs like Strickly Come Dancing etc. The social part of dancing has almost been lost. Families do seldom go out and dance together...kids are not welcome at the dance clubs and the scene at clubs is also not the best for kids.... not like the dances in City Halls, etc like when I grew up.
I now sound very old to myself..."In my time things were different ...lol" But they were, and I think that has made a big impact on social dancing in general. Competition dancing is different and has a different mindset to social dancing.
In 20 years of teaching, I have not met one lady who has not said the following phrases at various different times.
So here are my two cents worth that I would like to share with all men.
This was all aimed at the men. Now ladies if I may give you one tip too:
As couples please do not direct the blame for a dance step not working at one another. Try and work together to find out why the step is not working. If you can't work it out on your own, please ask your teacher for help. Do not let it escalate into a blame game and a fight....it can very quickly happen.
Dancing together is one of the very few activities a man and a women can enjoy together (we need each other to do it) ...learn together, grow together and have fun together as a couple.
These are just a couple of points if you have any suggestions, please send them to us at firstname.lastname@example.org. We look forward to hearing from you.